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Here is my horoscope from Rob Brezsny...

Leo Horoscope for week of February 17, 2005

In 1972, Leo singer Mick Jagger said, "When I'm 33, I'll quit rock and roll. That's a time when a man has to do something else. I don't want to be a rock star all my life." At age 61, Jagger has now been reneging on that promise for almost three decades. It's probably for the best. A person with an ego as monumental as his would likely have been unhappy as, say, a kindergarten teacher or economist. I bring this up, Leo, because it is Renege on Your Unwise, Unwarranted, Unworkable Promises Week. Let Jagger be your inspiration as you weasel out of or bravely renounce an old vow.

I am taking this as a sign from the universe that it is okay to renege on my solemn vow to maintain family peace.

I have been working for two months planning for my parents' 50th wedding anniversary this December. I came up with all the arrangements. Once I had the prices, two of my brothers and I agreed to put up $30 a month (just $30 -not $300) per couple for the cost of the event until December. The third brother has decided that he does not want to do this. He wants to give us all the money for his share in December because he gets a bonus then. When we spoke about the plans, he told me that he should have the money before the big day "unless something comes up." He is one of those perpetual bad luck people so it is virtually assured that something will come up.

So what do the rest of us do now? Do we put up extra just in case they don't contribute. Or if they can't give us the money, do we leave them out and ruin the day for my parents?

I have been steaming about this since last night. I am so angry!!!!


( 11 comments — Leave a comment )
Feb. 16th, 2005 06:55 am (UTC)
What is it with 50th Wedding anniversary parties that cause such family discord? I say this because we just recently had one for my grandparents.

My parents decided right off the bat to just pay for everything in order to reduce the amount of drama (and nobody can do drama like my family). So then, of course, someone had to be insulted because they decided that my mother was trying to take over the entire thing, when in reality she didn't want to do it at all but knew that she and my father were better off financially than everybody else and that it would be a burden for the others to have to pay for part of the party.

Crazy. I'm so glad it's over.

I don't have any advice because when it comes to your family, sometimes no matter what you do (even if you're trying to be nice) someone will take it the wrong way and be insulted. So if the family peace is going to be disrupted, most likely, no matter what you do, you might as well cause family discord and not have to pay extra.
Feb. 17th, 2005 02:10 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the info about your grandparents' 50th. It makes me feel better about all this and reminded me about the crud my mom went through with her siblings over their parents' 50th. But why does this all have to be so difficult!?!?!
Feb. 16th, 2005 08:59 am (UTC)
I think you put up the money and do that for your parents but you make it clear this brother owes or he's not considered part of the planners and he's out and that will be clear.
Feb. 16th, 2005 09:00 am (UTC)
My other comment is just that I CONSTANTLY feel like the more effort you put in the more frustration you get out and you try your hardest to do the right thing the nice thing, etc and it's all so unappreciated. SO I really hope this goes over well for you and you are able to let go and just enjoy.
Feb. 17th, 2005 02:11 pm (UTC)
Juannie reminded me of the fact that I need to let this go before it colors that day for me in a completely negative way. So I am trying very hard to keep my sense of fun and excitement about the planning and the event.
Feb. 17th, 2005 02:22 pm (UTC)
you only live once and really what's it all for? make it what you want it to be for. and stay smiling. good for you!
Feb. 16th, 2005 06:30 pm (UTC)
I agree with the above statement. The more effort I put into something, the more likely it will fail or get tripped up somehow. Just cut them all out of the will and have your revenge later. :^)
Feb. 17th, 2005 02:21 pm (UTC)
Karma is a merciless bitch. ;-) I try not to let her dog my steps. Hence my futile attempts at peacekeeping.
Feb. 17th, 2005 06:53 pm (UTC)
That she is. More power to ya on the peacekeeping. Me, I prefer doggedly sticking to my guns breeding a bitter sense of resentment within the family.
Feb. 17th, 2005 02:25 pm (UTC)
TOTALLY! The more I care about something going well the worse it goes. So I tend to be a wee bit on the negative side going into things but I'm usually pleasantly surprised rather than let down or disappointed.
Feb. 17th, 2005 06:54 pm (UTC)
Oh, I think it's a universal constant, much like the speed of light or the effects of gravity on moving bodies. You simply cannot escape the effects of preparing for something and having it collapse before you.
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