Here is my horoscope from Rob Brezsny...
Leo Horoscope for week of February 17, 2005
In 1972, Leo singer Mick Jagger said, "When I'm 33, I'll quit rock and roll. That's a time when a man has to do something else. I don't want to be a rock star all my life." At age 61, Jagger has now been reneging on that promise for almost three decades. It's probably for the best. A person with an ego as monumental as his would likely have been unhappy as, say, a kindergarten teacher or economist. I bring this up, Leo, because it is Renege on Your Unwise, Unwarranted, Unworkable Promises Week. Let Jagger be your inspiration as you weasel out of or bravely renounce an old vow.
I am taking this as a sign from the universe that it is okay to renege on my solemn vow to maintain family peace.
I have been working for two months planning for my parents' 50th wedding anniversary this December. I came up with all the arrangements. Once I had the prices, two of my brothers and I agreed to put up $30 a month (just $30 -not $300) per couple for the cost of the event until December. The third brother has decided that he does not want to do this. He wants to give us all the money for his share in December because he gets a bonus then. When we spoke about the plans, he told me that he should have the money before the big day "unless something comes up." He is one of those perpetual bad luck people so it is virtually assured that something will come up.
So what do the rest of us do now? Do we put up extra just in case they don't contribute. Or if they can't give us the money, do we leave them out and ruin the day for my parents?
I have been steaming about this since last night. I am so angry!!!!
Leo Horoscope for week of February 17, 2005
In 1972, Leo singer Mick Jagger said, "When I'm 33, I'll quit rock and roll. That's a time when a man has to do something else. I don't want to be a rock star all my life." At age 61, Jagger has now been reneging on that promise for almost three decades. It's probably for the best. A person with an ego as monumental as his would likely have been unhappy as, say, a kindergarten teacher or economist. I bring this up, Leo, because it is Renege on Your Unwise, Unwarranted, Unworkable Promises Week. Let Jagger be your inspiration as you weasel out of or bravely renounce an old vow.
I am taking this as a sign from the universe that it is okay to renege on my solemn vow to maintain family peace.
I have been working for two months planning for my parents' 50th wedding anniversary this December. I came up with all the arrangements. Once I had the prices, two of my brothers and I agreed to put up $30 a month (just $30 -not $300) per couple for the cost of the event until December. The third brother has decided that he does not want to do this. He wants to give us all the money for his share in December because he gets a bonus then. When we spoke about the plans, he told me that he should have the money before the big day "unless something comes up." He is one of those perpetual bad luck people so it is virtually assured that something will come up.
So what do the rest of us do now? Do we put up extra just in case they don't contribute. Or if they can't give us the money, do we leave them out and ruin the day for my parents?
I have been steaming about this since last night. I am so angry!!!!
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My parents decided right off the bat to just pay for everything in order to reduce the amount of drama (and nobody can do drama like my family). So then, of course, someone had to be insulted because they decided that my mother was trying to take over the entire thing, when in reality she didn't want to do it at all but knew that she and my father were better off financially than everybody else and that it would be a burden for the others to have to pay for part of the party.
Crazy. I'm so glad it's over.
I don't have any advice because when it comes to your family, sometimes no matter what you do (even if you're trying to be nice) someone will take it the wrong way and be insulted. So if the family peace is going to be disrupted, most likely, no matter what you do, you might as well cause family discord and not have to pay extra.
you only live once and really what's it all for? make it what you want it to be for. and stay smiling. good for you!